Self-Acceptance & Mindset Coach

Coaching rooted in SELF-ACCEPTANCE and SELF-COMPASSION

Helping ambitious women who appear capable on the outside and struggle with self-criticism build grounded confidence, clarity, and self-trust.

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“Self-compassion isn’t just about being nice to yourself; it’s about recognising your flaws as a part of the shared human experience and mindfully addressing them without judgment”.

~ Kristin Neff , PhD ~

Bonita Carmel smiling warmly in a cosy, light-filled space—welcoming ambitious women to a safe, supportive journey of self-acceptance and personal growth.

Hi, I’m Bonita Carmel!  Welcome - I’m so glad you’re here. 

I know first-hand how low self-esteem can feel like a constant internal battle — one that quietly affects your relationships, your work, your wellbeing, and how you relate to yourself day to day. When self-doubt becomes familiar, it can be exhausting to carry it alone.

As a qualified psychotherapist, I understand how deeply patterns of self-criticism, perfectionism, and emotional over-responsibility can take hold. My work as a self-acceptance and mindset coach is informed by this understanding.

Through a compassionate and personalised approach, we’ll explore the root causes of your self-esteem challenges, transform self-critical patterns into practical, uplifting strategies, and build on your unique strengths and values — so you can embrace your worth and move forward with greater clarity and confidence.

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I am enough

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I deserve to be happy

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I respect myself

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I accept my imperfections

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I will be kinder to myself

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I am worthy

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I deserve love

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I am not my mistakes

• I am enough • I deserve to be happy • I respect myself • I accept my imperfections • I will be kinder to myself • I am worthy • I deserve love • I am not my mistakes

Are you ready to invest in yourself and make a change?

I’m here to support you every step of the way, let’s start this journey together.

This isn’t about quick fixes or empty affirmations. It’s about real, lasting change, helping you develop a better relationship with yourself through self-acceptance, compassion and understanding. Using evidence-based techniques and a holistic approach, I’ll guide you to:

  • Develop authentic self-confidence rooted in your true worth.

  • Overcome the fears and self-doubt holding you back.

  • Cultivate self-compassion and resilience, so you can navigate life’s challenges with strength and grace.

  • Feel empowered to set boundaries and prioritise yourself without guilt.

You don’t have to figure this out alone. With personalised 1:1 support, we’ll work together to silence your inner critic and help you step into the best version of yourself—because you deserve to feel confident, capable, and unapologetically you.

The Power of Self-Acceptance: How Coaching Can Help You Thrive

Improving self-acceptance is one of the most transformative steps you can take toward a happier, more fulfilling life. When you accept yourself fully—your strengths, challenges, and everything in between—you release the pressure of trying to be someone else or meet external expectations. This shift allows you to live authentically, make decisions with confidence, and approach life with a greater sense of peace and clarity.

Coaching offers a safe, supportive space for you to explore these areas and help you make meaningful progress toward a future that you truly want.

With guidance and encouragement, you’ll discover how embracing self-acceptance can unlock your potential and lead you toward a more authentic, empowered life.

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My Story: From Challenges to Coaching with Purpose

When I look back on my journey to becoming a self-acceptance and mindset coach, I realise it wasn’t a single moment or event that led me here. Instead, it was a series of life experiences, challenges, and personal growth that shaped my passion for helping others embrace who they truly are.

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Empowering You to Discover, Realign, and Flourish

Through our work together, I will guide you in recognising and transforming negative thinking patterns, cultivating a compassionate mindset, and aligning your actions with your authentic values.

Whether you're struggling with self-criticism, navigating life transitions, or simply seeking to improve your overall well-being, I'm here to support you on your journey toward greater self-acceptance and fulfillment.

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My Approach: Holistic Coaching

My coaching approach is shaped by a unique blend of my experience as a former occupational therapist, my experience of working as a cognitive behavioural therapist, as well as my training in Integrative Health Coaching.

These roles have taught me to view each client as a whole person, integrating mental, physical, and emotional aspects of well-being. This foundation enables me to design a coaching experience that goes beyond traditional goal-setting. I prioritise understanding your core values, personal strengths, and lifestyle to support sustainable, meaningful growth in all areas of life, ensuring that each session is tailored to you as a whole person, not just a set of objectives.

Words From People I’ve Worked With

  • "Bonita has a gift for building trust so naturally that I felt safe with her almost immediately. She listens with such genuine care that I never once doubted she understood me, not just my words, but the emotions behind them…Her empathy is genuine, and her presence is steady and reassuring, making every session feel like a sanctuary…I feel calmer and emotionally lighter, as though a weight has been lifted. I’ve gained validation for my experiences, and I feel more empowered and confident in my decision-making…Working with Bonita has been one of the most positive and impactful experiences of my life".

    CLIENT

  • “...I am now a much more confident and assertive person, with firm boundaries... I now know who I am! Bonita is incredibly empathetic, and truly listens. Her manner is so kind and gentle, yet she brings such wisdom and inner strength... I felt heard, seen and valued. My self-esteem grew with each session, and is still very much in place... If you take all the kindness, wisdom and support from Bonita, and put in the effort too, you will be amazed at the new and better version of yourself on the other side…”

    CLIENT

  • "I found Bonita easy to connect and communicate with from the first session, which from the outset created a comfortable, trusting and open space where I could explore, understand and learn...In our sessions, Bonita was consistently human, genuine and warm and this, blended with her deep knowledge and understanding of therapeutic techniques and interventions created an excellent therapeutic space...Bonita’s sessions are tailored to suit the individuals’ needs and circumstances. Her compassion and depth of experience is delivered…free from judgement, and I am certain that whilst working with Bonita, you will unlock strength and capability that you didn’t know you already had within you".

    CLIENT

  • "The way she spoke to me made me feel safe with her, it also changed the way I talk to myself and how I respond to my problems. She made me feel comfortable talking about my experiences … the way she speaks is very calming and welcoming. I think she knows how to make people open up, she's kind and speaks in such a way that makes you feel comfortable. I was worried I wouldn't be able to talk about everything but it felt natural and I never worried about being judged".

    CLIENT

  • "Bonita listened to everything I had to say, she made me feel very comfortable talking about all my issues and didn’t make me feel insecure. When we discussed personal matters, Bonita was very kind and understanding and took my opinion into account when setting out the plan for the meeting, and she gave me great guidelines if I was ever stuck on anything. She was so easy to talk to and open up to. I enjoyed my time speaking with Bonita, and I felt that I could discuss anything with her without feeling self conscious".

    CLIENT

  • "I found Bonita to be a perfect balance of professional, so she put boundaries in and always kept focused on what she wanted us to achieve but also approachable and friendly. Bonita made me feel at ease and very comfortable but she also challenged me and my thinking- which is exactly what I needed. Bonita didn’t hold back in showing me alternative approaches and helping me to see when I was exercising unhelpful thinking and it helped me build trust with her. I would also say Bonita came across as extremely knowledgeable. She was extremely good at explaining ‘why’ we would engage in a particular exercise and how it fitted into the bigger picture. I personally needed this and found it very useful".

    CLIENT

  • "I liked how approachable and easy to talk to she was, that makes it easy to approach one’s own issues/difficulties because of that. I found her empathetic but logical which resonates well with me. She gave me a good sense of perspective and helped me find a more neutral/less skewed view of myself. I think the empathetic but down to earth/logical way was really great for me. And how she managed to bring the knowledge in a way I can easily understand".

    CLIENT

  • "It has been so helpful to understand my belief system and it makes me so much more aware of how I speak to myself and why things might feel hard in certain situations. Bonita is really accepting of how I feel and ways I think… she never says things are ‘wrong’ or ‘bad’ but is so helpful at offering alternatives and encouraging you to think why a thought might not necessarily be true. She pushes you in a kind and supportive way to help figure out root causes. We uncovered things that I’d not thought about for years… which really helped me to understand my own thought patterns. Bonita has given me more mental clarity. She helps you understand why you feel how you feel and to help you identify patterns to break which help you have a more fulfilled life".

    CLIENT

Work With Me

Whether you’re looking for a focused reset or a deeper coaching journey,

I offer two pathways to support your growth:

  • Bonita Carmel | Carmel Coaching | The 90-Minute Self-Acceptance Strategy Session at Carmel Coaching offers a focused, compassionate space to pause, gain clarity, and understand what’s getting in the way of greater confidence and self-acceptance..

    Self-Acceptance Strategy Session

    Schedule a single, focused coaching session to explore what’s holding you back, clarify your goals, and walk away with personalised strategies to support your self-acceptance journey..

    Book now
  • Bonita Carmel | Carmel Coaching | The Self-Acceptance Blueprint™ at Carmel Coaching is a structured, compassionate journey designed to help you build self-acceptance, self-trust, and emotional steadiness over time.

    The Self-Acceptance Blueprint™

    Start your 12-week 1:1 coaching journey designed to help you reconnect with yourself, build emotional resilience, and create lasting change — with personalised support every step of the way.

    Book Now

Ready to unlock your brilliance?

Let’s start your journey toward lasting self-acceptance — with compassionate support every step of the way.

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